Your Responsibility

 There is a responsibility assigned to us not only to protect ourselves but for others protection as well. I’m speaking to the responsibility of the relationship between ourselves and our inner child.

Without addressing the core wounds of your inner child, you can count on the revolving door of unfulfilling relationships. It’s a long list based on your expectations of external validation, past experiences, and unmet needs that stem from your wounded inner child.

The cold facts are I lived a traumatic and bitter life, which may have been different with the right resources. Before I developed my deep appreciation of consciousness and openness to my experiences, healing was elusive. I continued to seek relationships that were as abusive as my childhood.

Seeking out help, I only allowed professionals to assist with what I was willing to show because I felt patronized by their approach. I had to feel safe with the provider and with myself, and I don’t recall ever having that offered until I began my inner work.

Former therapy focused on surface issues such as how I felt about my appearance (weight), developing self-sufficiency skills, drawing an invisible bubble for my personal space, and physical safety. My story was always, “it’s his fault,” and had not been encouraged to go deeper and look at my attachment style or my inner child.

I could author a book based on the what-ifs based on my life, but I’ll save the sermon. Instead, I’ll offer a little bit of experiential advice about entering relationships before you have addressed your unmet needs.

• Learn your “what” behind the WTF happened?
• Heal your inner child before the next relationship.
• Develop a relationship with self, FIRST!
• Explore your attachment style.
• Set your SELF-boundaries.
• Commit Yourself to Yourself.
• Develop healthy emotional connections via safe groups/communities (DM for resources!)
• Identify your emotional needs.
• Refer to #2.
• Grow with love.

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