Feeling Heard

 

Shame was probably the most difficult challenge for (or most others) to let go of. It was difficult to let go because I was not certain what shame was. There was a vague idea, but if someone asked me to define it, I could not do that except to state what I was ashamed of. Carl Jung called it, “a soul eating emotion”; I agree. It is a dark emotion that leads us to deny parts of ourselves. As individuals, we focus shame on us, in turn creating mayhem on its own through constant comparison of our values to the emotion and negative self-evaluation.

 
It causes us to project those negative emotions inward to ourselves, self-harm, lash out in anger at ourselves or others, and can bring a person to isolate. I isolated because of fear of being seen for five years in my own home. Groceries were delivered, as was most of my personal shopping; I rarely socialized outside of my home, gained excessive weight and my self-worth was shrouded in shame. Feelings of rejection, unloved, abandonment and uselessness as a person were working their way through daily life. I knew I needed help and was reluctant to ask because of a lack of understanding what was driving all of this.  
 
The sad part of all this? No one bothered to define shame to me or break it down and help me get to the root cause. Not one. They were willing to take my money for all the hours of therapy, but not one asked, “What do you need to say?”.
 
What did I do to let my shame go? I explored all my past through daily journaling, talking, shadow work, meditation, breath work, received coaching, found a non-judgmental community to connect and heal with and kept sharing my story “feeling Heard” through every step. I was asked to share, over and over, and each time met with the same open-heart space of anyone I spoke to. As hard as the work was, sharing my story was the answer to releasing my shame.
 
If you have followed me for any amount of time you have seen the process of letting, go happen each day. I started my journey with writing and journaling daily to step out of my comfort zone, build my voice and watch my progress. I invite you to try the same for yourself beginning with journaling. Ask yourself what shame feels like? How does it affect your daily life? How does it show up in your past and present life? Be brave, it is not easy to see yourself.
 
Share your story. Connect with someone you trust and share what you have discovered. It is vulnerability in the most beautiful and healing light when you are in a space created for you to be heard.
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There is no room for shame when love is in its place. Feeling heard is feeling love.
 
Growing with Love,
 S
 
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